Making memories. 7 Great Date Night ideas — for you and your kids!
I’m a mom. I make sure homework is done, I wash their faces at bedtime and I bring them to soccer games. These are the daily chores of a parent. But like nurturing your adult relationships with one-on-one time, parents need that with their kids, too! One-on-one, mom-and-kid, memory making, fun!
A few years back, I started a “date night” tradition with my kids and they LOVE it. The quality time is worth its weight in gold. We actually “talk”, we laugh, we share feelings, we have fun together—I’m building a bond with them that goes beyond homework and face washing and soccer games and that makes us both feel great!
I follow these four rules to date night:
- It’s JUST the two of you
- It’s planned in advance (gives you something to talk about and look forward to)
- It’s something your child will enjoy
- It’s consistent (we plan for it once a month, i.e. every third Thursday)
Below are some date night ideas that I’ve used with my kids. I have a son and a daughter and they like completely different things. My daughter loves dinners, my son thinks that’s soooo boring. Whatever you choose, make sure it’s something your child will enjoy, even if it’s not your favorite. Trust me, when they’re having fun with you, you’re having fun, too.
Fancy Dinners Oh-La-La
My daughter and I love our dinner date nights. I let her pick out my outfit, I let her wear whatever jewelry of mine she wants and we head out to any restaurant that has a table cloth. Why? Because we’re fancy. We’re dressed up. We immediately put our napkins in our laps and we use our best manners. Trust me when I tell you, it just “happens” that she’s at her most proper in a proper environment. Best yet, we have a chance to talk. No interruptions and no competing conversations with her brother—it’s just about us.
My son has a thirst for knowledge. Seriously, the kid could stay in a museum from sunrise to sunset if he could. And I love to see his brain at work, churning with questions and ideas which make for great conversations. There are a ton of museums in the seacoast area and beyond and your local library often has free or discounted passes you can receive on loan.
The Portland area has a bunch of parent-kid classes including pottery painting, family yoga, building workshops, art classes and more. It’s a time for you to be creative, fun and silly together.
I’m the opposite of a pack-rat so I’m constantly filling bins and bags of used-but-useful items ready for donation. My son and I load the car up, bring it to one of our favorite donation spots and I let him hand over the goodies. He knows it’s going to someone else who can use it which makes him feel great. These early lessons of giving and gratitude are a big help when clearing out the toy bin, too. Just saying. Then we go get an ice cream sundae of epic proportions. Like one that you would normally say “no way” to– with all the toppings, gooey drippings and sprinkles. Extra sprinkles.
Can’t get out of the house? No problem.
We shut ourselves in the bathroom for a while and do face masks (you can find super gentle “moisturizing masks” at the drug store), I paint her nails and we put hot towels around our necks. Total girl time.
I love snuggling and I love reading, and so do my kids. If we’re finding it difficult (or too cold) to leave the house for a date night, we’ll grab a good book and head for mom’s bed. Sometimes we read to each other, sometimes we just enjoy quietly reading to ourselves. It’s not always about having to talk, we just enjoy being near each other for some alone time.
Puzzles, Battleship, Jenga—you name it. I always let my child choose the game (even if I despise it) and we play for an hour or so while filling up on party snacks like popcorn, lemonade and M&Ms. This is not the time to bust out the organic fruit snacks, we splurge because if anything makes a game of Old Maid exciting, it’s M&Ms.